Reference: Majmoo’ Fataawa 1/346 by al-‘Allaamah ‘Abdul-Azeez ibn Baaz (rahimahuAllaah)
From the manners that is befitting for you to be upon, O dear Daa’ee, is to be tolerant in your Da’wah, gentle in it, and to be forbearing and very patient – just as the Messenger (‘alayhi salaam) used to be.
Beware of hastiness, beware of sternness and harshness. Upon you is to have patience, to be forbearing, and to have gentleness in your Da’wah. Some of the evidences regarding this have been previously mentioned, such as the statement of Allaah (Azza wa Jal):
{Invite to the way of your Lord and fair preaching, and argue with them in a way that is better} [An-Nahl: 125]
Also, His statement, the One who is free from all imperfections:
{And by the Mercy of Allaah, you dealt with them gently} [aal-Imraan: 159]
Also, His statement Jallawa ‘Alaa in the story of Moosaa and Haroon;
{And speak to him mildly, perhaps he may accept admonition or fear (of Allaah)} [Ta-Ha: 44]
In the hadeeth of as-Saheeh, the Prophet (sallaahu alayhi wa sallam) said;
“O Allaah! Whosoever has authority over my people and is gentle to my nation then (I ask You to) be gentle to him; and whosoever has authority over my people and makes things difficult for them then [I ask You to] make things difficult for him.” [1]
It is reported from Muslim in his Saheeh.
Therefore it is upon you, O dear Servant of Allaah, that you are gentle in your Da’wah and do not make matters difficult for the people. Do not drive them away from the religion, nor drive them away with your coarseness or your ignorance. [Do not drive them away] with your stern harmful manners that harms.
It is upon you to be forbearing and patient, conducting yourself with lenient speech. Good wordsso that they have an effect in the heart of your brother, an effect in the hearts of the people you are giving Da’wah to, such that they find comfort in your Da’wah and are drawn to it. For this you will be praised and thanked.
As for harshness, it drives people away and does not bring them close; it causes the people to be disunited and does not bring them together
Footnote
[1] Saheeh Muslim (1828),Musnad Ahmed ibn Hanbal (6/93)
من أخلاق الداعية
من الأخلاق التي ينبغي لك أن تكون عليها أيها الداعية، أن تكون حليما في دعوتك، رفيقا فيها، متحملا صبورا، كما فعل الرسل عليهم الصلاة والسلام.
إياك والعجلة، إياك والعنف والشدة، عليك بالصبر، عليك بالحلم، عليك بالرفق في دعوتك، وقد سبق لك بعض الدليل على ذلك كقوله جل وعلا:
{ادْعُ إِلَى سَبِيلِ رَبِّكَ بِالْحِكْمَةِ وَالْمَوْعِظَةِ الْحَسَنَةِ وَجَادِلْهُمْ بِالَّتِي هِيَ أَحْسَنُ} [1]
وقوله سبحانه:
{فَبِمَا رَحْمَةٍ مِنَ اللَّهِ لِنْتَ لَهُمْ} الآية [2]
وقوله جل وعلا في قصة موسى وهارون:
{فَقُولَا لَهُ قَوْلًا لَيِّنًا لَعَلَّهُ يَتَذَكَّرُ أَوْ يَخْشَى} [3]
وفي الحديث الصحيح يقول النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم:
«اللهم من ولي من أمر أمتي شيئا فرفق بهم فارفق به، ومن ولي من أمر أمتي شيئا فشق عليهم فاشقق عليه » [4]
خرجه مسلم في الصحيح، فعليك يا عبد الله أن ترفق في دعوتك، ولا تشق على الناس، ولا تنفرهم من الدين، ولا تنفرهم بغلظتك ولا بجهلك، ولا بأسلوبك العنيف المؤذي الضار، عليك أن تكون حليما صبورا، سلس القياد لين الكلام، طيب الكلام حتى تؤثر في قلب أخيك، وحتى تؤثر في قلب المدعو، وحتى يأنس لدعوتك ويلين لها، ويتأثر بها، ويثني عليك بها ويشكرك عليها، أما العنف فهو منفر لا مقرب، ومفرق لا جامع..” [5]
[1] سورة النحل الآية 125
[2] سورة آل عمران الآية 159
[3] سورة طه الآية 44
[4] صحيح مسلم البر والصلة والآداب (2594) ، سنن أبو داود الأدب (4808) ، مسند أحمد بن حنبل (6/125) .
[5] مجموع فتاوى بن باز (رحمه الله)8/376
