Reference: Badāi’ al-Fawā’id: Vol 3 Page 159
[In the name of Allāh, ar-Raḥmān (the most merciful), ar-Raḥīm (the bestower of mercy)]
If there was no other [benefit in marriage] except that the Prophet ﷺ will joyfully boast about the number of his Ummah. [1]
If there was no other [benefit in marriage] except that ones good deeds will not cease with death. [2]
If there was no other benefit in it except that from his offspring will be those who testify to the tawḥīd of Allāh, and the sending of his Messenger ﷺ.
If there was no other benefit in it except that it helps in controlling one’s gaze and safeguarding one private parts, thereby avoiding what Allāh, the most-high, has made ḥarām. [3]
If there was no other benefit in it except that it is a means for a woman to also protect her chastity; Allāh had made marriage a means of preserving her dignity.
If there was no other benefit in it except that through him (the husband), Allāh protects a woman; he is rewarded for fulfilling his own desire, and her; so [marriage] is an increase in his pleasure, as well as an increase in deeds added to his record.
If there was no other benefit in it except for the great reward for one’s expenditure on his wife, her clothing, her dwelling, and raising a morsel to her mouth. [4]
If there was no other benefit in it except that Islām and its people increase, which is disliked by the enemies of Islām.
If there was no other benefit in it except that marriage contains acts of ‘ibādah which cannot be attained by a person who performs nafl alone by himself.
If there was no other benefit in it except that it helps a person regulate his carnal desires, that would otherwise distract the heart from what is more beneficial for them in both their religion and worldly life. For when the heart becomes attached to desire, or is busy struggling against it, it is diverted from pursuing what is better. Whenever one’s focus is preoccupied by something, it inevitably turns away from other things.
If there was no other benefit in it except that it affords a person the opportunity to have daughters. If he is patient with them and treats them well, and so they are a shield for him from the Fire.
If there was no other benefit in it except that he is blessed with young children who pass away before reaching the age of responsibility, and by them, Allāh admits him into Paradise.
If there was no other benefit in it except that it brings the help of Allāh, [as has been narrated in] the ḥadīth attributed directly to the Prophet ﷺ:
Three people are entitled to Allāh’s help: the one who marries seeking chastity, the one who strives to pay off a contractual debt, and the one who fights in the way of Allāh. [5]
Footnotes:
[1] Referring to the ḥadīth: “Marry those who are loving and fertile, for I will boast of your great numbers before the other nations on the Day of Judgment.” Narrated by Ma’qil ibn Yasar; Collected by Abu Dawūd.
[2] Meaning that he will leave behind righteous offspring, who the parents should teach and cultivate, and their offspring will be an extension of their reward. Parent is rewarded for the good deeds of their children, in addition to their supplications.
[3] Referring to the ḥadīth: “O young men, whoever among you can afford it, let him marry, for it is more effective in lowering the gaze and guarding chastity…”. Narrated by Ibn Mas’ūd; Collected by al-Bukhārī & Muslim.
[4] Referring to the ḥadīth: “Whatever you spend for the sake of Allāh, you will be rewarded for it – even the morsel of food which you put in your wife’s mouth.” Narrated by Sa’d Ibn Abī Waqqās; Collected by al-Bukhārī & Muslim.
[5] Narrated by Ibn Mas’ūd; Collected by an-Nasāī & others; Graded Ḥasan by al-Albāni.
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ولو لم يكن فيه إلا سرور النبي ﷺ يوم المباهاة بأمّته.
ولو لم يكن فيه إلا أنّه بصدد أنه لا ينقطع عمله بموته.
ولو لم يكن فيه إلا أنه يخرج من صلبه من يشهد بالله بالوحدانية ولرسولهﷺ بالرسالة.
ولو لم يكن فيه إلا غض بصره وإحصان فرجه عن التفاته إلى ما حرم الله تعالى.
ولو لم يكن فيه إلا تحصين امرأة يعفها الله به ويثيبه على قضاء وطره ووطرها فهو في لذاته وصحائف حسناته تتزايد.
ولو لم يكن فيه إلا ما يُثاب عليه من نفقته على امرأته وكسوتها ومسكنها ورفع اللقمة إلى فِيْها.
ولو لم يكن فيه إلا تكثير الإسلام وأهله وغيظ أعداء الإسلام.
ولو لم يكن فيه إلا ما يترتب عليه من العبادات التي لا تحصل للمتخلي للنوافل.
ولو لم يكن فيه إلا تعديل قوّته الشهوانية الصارفة له عن تعلق قلبه بما هو أنفع له في دينه ودنياه فإن تعلّق القلب بالشهوة أو مجاهدته عليها تصده عن تعلقه بما هو أنفع له فإن الهمة متى انصرفت إلى شيء انصرفت عن غيره.
ولو لم يكن فيه إلا تعرضه لبنات إذا صبر عليهن وأحسن إليهن كن له سترا من النار.
ولو لم يكن فيه إلا أنه إذا قدم له فرطين لم يبلغا الحنث أدخله الله بهما الجنة.
ولو لم يكن فيه إلا استجلابه عون الله له فإن في الحديث المرفوع : ” ثلاثة حق على الله عونهم الناكح يريد العفاف والمكاتب يريد الأداء والمجاهد.
